Hi Folks! Today’s post was not planned as I have been flying by the seat of my pants for the last few months…but as my evening wore on and I got into the usual bath time battle with Caleb I felt impressed to vent…I mean write about parenthood. Caleb is just about three and a half years old now. It’s been awhile since I’ve posted about my blossoming youngster. Last year I wrote a post called: Terrific Madness that chronicled some of our two-year old parenting challenges. Now he’s three and the Terrific Madness has turned into Horrifying Pleasure.
I have to chuckle at that description because many times I am horrified/floored by what comes out of his mouth and pleased at how bright, intuitive, expressive, sharp and witty he is all at the same time! Not only is he more fresh at three, but his energy levels are through the roof and he is becoming quite rambunctious. It seems like the three’s are worse than the two’s. I’ve heard this sentiment given by other parents so again…I’m not in this ship alone, but he pushed my buttons tonight like never before.
At times I feel like the “crazy mommy”….and truthfully sometimes “crazy mommy” gets results! LOL! Further pleasure comes from the fact that he is so good at being himself! I love his colorful personality. His musical ability is amazing and he can memorize Bible scripture better than me. It’s amazing to watch him develop into a solid human being!
The other challenge I’ve been struggling with is that at times I can’t figure out if Caleb is really suffering from his eczema woes or using it as a ploy to get what he wants. This has been a hard one for me, because I don’t want him to feel abandoned or unsupported as we get through this toddler stage, but I don’t like being manipulated either. So for all you parents out there: what are some tips that I can employ to continue to mold Caleb into a great person…but not break his spirit in the process? Here are some discussion questions:
1. When your toddler had/has tantrums in public how did/do you react?
2. When your toddler talks back (yes I said “talks back”) or has a fresh mouth what is the consequence? At times I feel like I’m talking to a teenager.
3. How did/do you channel explosions of energy so that they are not destructive?
4. Is anyone struggling with boys to read/learn letters? I’ve heard boys tend to be less keen on reading. We’ve read to Caleb since he was a newborn and he loves books and for me to read them but at times he has excuses and ill behavior when it’s time for him to learn.
5. If you have a child/children with asthma, eczema, food allergies, autism or any other special circumstance how do you determine real need from fake manipulative tactics?
I’m looking forward to a spirited discussion on parenting!! 🙂 Don’t be shy!
Peace and love